death by silence

07. October 2016 Faith, Self-Help, Therapy 0
I’ve lost count how many times I’ve walked alongside someone on the edge of suicide. Clients. Friends. I talked about it last night. I talked about it this morning. In Massachusetts, death by suicide occurs at a rate 4.6x higher than that of homicide. It is the second leading cause of death among the ages ...

Sadness is Not Our Enemy

30. August 2016 Faith, Self-Help, Therapy 2
Across socioeconomic statuses and geographical lines, there is a widely held belief that grief or pain or sadness is best tucked away for private, solitary moments. Public tears ought to be shed quickly and quietly. Further still, is a social norm that equates the expression of sadness with a state of weakness (and weakness is ...

Finding Meaning

01. August 2016 Faith, Social Justice, Therapy 3
What does it mean to be a therapist, a Christian and a Feminist? What does it mean to be a white woman, with all of the above identities, working in a predominantly non-white environment in the midst of a racially divided country? As best as I can tell, it means life is messy as hell. ...

Fear & Faith

29. July 2016 Faith 3
“If your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough.” – Ellen Johnson Sirleaf   Starting a (legit) blog/website scares the crap out of me. It scares me so much I’m actually afraid to examine why it scares me. (More on that later). I’ve tried this before. I have this habit of going hard for ...

Small Wire

by Anne Sexton My faith is a great weight, hung on a small wire, as doth the spider hang her baby on a thin web, as doth the vine, twiggy and wooden, hold up grapes like eyeballs, as many angels dance on the head of a pin. God does not need, too much wire to ...